staying single

I’m almost tempted to state that being in a relationship is better than being single, without even discussing this topic. But let’s keep the bias aside and talk this out.

Hmm…where to begin. There are different types of relationships, so for the sake of this discussion, let’s focus on healthy relationships, not friends with benefits, not the sugar daddy type of relationship, not dating a woman almost twice your age type of relationship, not the boss-secretary relationships or lecturer-student relationship…NO! We are referring to the kind of relationship your family would be proud of.

being in a relationship

Back to the topic at hand, it’s a very pleasant thing to be in a healthy relationship; one that has the interest of both parties at heart. Corrects each other with love, supports each other and helps the other be the best version of themselves. Who doesn’t want to be in such a relationship?!

Being single, on the other hand, has it’s perks. There is no one telling you what or what not to do, no one to set any standards for you. As a matter of fact, you are your own standard. No extra responsibility, freedom to go and grow at your own pace, time to work on and improve yourself (not for anyone but for YOU)

girl talk; being in a relationship vs being single

A lot of single guys/ladies are single by choice (leave your comments down below if you disagree). Not everyone is eager to jump on the relationship boat (for good reasons). So many have jumped on this boat and either bailed or sank. Some just never learn, they become repeat offenders going through the cycle over and over again.

Love is a beautiful thing, so for those of us who have found it, kudos. For the rest of us single ladies/guys, don’t be in a hurry to be in a relationship. The haste can be toxic.

There are some people that say they can’t stay single for long periods of time, so one after the other, they enter into series of relationships. My opinion: avoid such people. Don’t let the pressures of life, peer pressure, pressure from family or just plain curiosity get the best of you. Live your life to the fullest and be the best version of you.

A friend of mine always says he is single till he gets married. After all, legally it’s either your are single or married. That’s a topic for another day though because many single folks out there are not really single…is it deception or the plain legal truth??

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With Love,


being in a relationship vs being single

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