staying single

I’m almost tempted to state that being in a relationship is better than being single, without even discussing this topic. But let’s keep the bias aside and talk this out.

Hmm…where to begin. There are different types of relationships, so for the sake of this discussion, let’s focus on healthy relationships, not friends with benefits, not the sugar daddy type of relationship, not dating a woman almost twice your age type of relationship, not the boss-secretary relationships or lecturer-student relationship…NO! We are referring to the kind of relationship your family would be proud of.

being in a relationship

Back to the topic at hand, it’s a very pleasant thing to be in a healthy relationship; one that has the interest of both parties at heart. Corrects each other with love, supports each other and helps the other be the best version of themselves. Who doesn’t want to be in such a relationship?!

Being single, on the other hand, has it’s perks. There is no one telling you what or what not to do, no one to set any standards for you. As a matter of fact, you are your own standard. No extra responsibility, freedom to go and grow at your own pace, time to work on and improve yourself (not for anyone but for YOU)

girl talk; being in a relationship vs being single

A lot of single guys/ladies are single by choice (leave your comments down below if you disagree). Not everyone is eager to jump on the relationship boat (for good reasons). So many have jumped on this boat and either bailed or sank. Some just never learn, they become repeat offenders going through the cycle over and over again.

Love is a beautiful thing, so for those of us who have found it, kudos. For the rest of us single ladies/guys, don’t be in a hurry to be in a relationship. The haste can be toxic.

There are some people that say they can’t stay single for long periods of time, so one after the other, they enter into series of relationships. My opinion: avoid such people. Don’t let the pressures of life, peer pressure, pressure from family or just plain curiosity get the best of you. Live your life to the fullest and be the best version of you.

A friend of mine always says he is single till he gets married. After all, legally it’s either your are single or married. That’s a topic for another day though because many single folks out there are not really single…is it deception or the plain legal truth??

Feel free to leave your comments in the comment-section below. If you are shy to put down your name, you can go by anonymous. Thanks for reading.

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being in a relationship vs being single

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    Great work Jenny… So what happened???
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  • Winnie's Style December 31, 2018 at 10:26 am

    being in a relationship is cool if it’s worth it. but if it is not, just stay single till you find the one.

    • Janet January 2, 2019 at 5:53 pm

      …but what if ‘the one’ is more than 1 person?
      I’m just kidding, you are right

  • Nosa October 9, 2018 at 6:30 pm

    Hummmmm…Interesting topic. Personally I believe there is time for everything. And life has a way of aligning every stage of it. So when you ought to be single, stay single and enjoy your singlehood, and when you should be hooked up and enjoy it also. When misplaced priority set in there are bond to be errors and lets hope they are not king sized. We see that a lot in this generation. SInce, personally I haven’t had much of the “relationship” phase I would say my best moments have been while single. Still single though…lol

    • Janet October 30, 2018 at 7:22 pm

      lol…you basically said it all. Your recommendation at the end though hahahaha

  • San October 8, 2018 at 6:38 pm

    Like any other subject in life, the answer to this question is not straight forward. It’s always relative. Whether or not you enjoy a relationship depends on who you’re with in that relationship. Often times, people fail to first establish a relationship with themselves or even try to understand themselves. They fail to first of all Love themselves and yet expect all these things from another. I believe that these things are in phases/stages. Once we jump a phase, it’ll always tell. Being single should allow you realize who you are in all possible levels and what you want in a person or relationship. This would allow you the luxury of making better informed decisions on who to be in a relationship with. If you go into a relationship not knowing what you want and deserve, there’s hardly a chance you’d enjoy it because your partner is not going to be able to give you what you deserve (because he/she doesn’t know either)

    • Janet October 30, 2018 at 7:26 pm

      That’s a really deep comment. It seems you have given this particular topic some thought. I agree with you, you have to be with the right person to actually enjoy your relationship. And also, knowing what you want from the relationship goes a long way to keep both parties satisfied. Thanks for your comment.

  • Anonymous October 8, 2018 at 6:16 pm

    I thought singlehood was sweet until I got married. Both have their challenges. But my best memories have been created in my marriage.

    • Janet October 30, 2018 at 7:27 pm

      I’m glad you are making beautiful memories in your marriage. Thanks for your comment.


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